Totality

At the last minute, three of our five grandchildren made us an offer we could not refuse. Visiting from Atlanta, as did all our children and grandchildren, they and their parents (our son and daughter-in-law) stayed over Sunday evening to chase the eclipse into South Carolina Monday. So we joined them, drove north to the Botanical Gardens at Clemson, and made a memory with our family. No photograph has yet captured the palpable, overwhelming eye …

Facing Forward

Several years ago, I was in conversation with an older clergyman who had served the same church for over 25 years. In the course of that conversation, I asked my friend, “How have you sustained a ministry at one church for those many years?”  Without hesitation, he answered: “I’ve always had some project, some new ministry venture, some personal goal that I was looking forward to accomplishing. Looking forward to new challenges brings energy to …

Asking Tough Questions

Following a recent talk, someone posed a question about discovery you may have asked. “Is asking questions about a client’s life, family, family-of-origin issues, work, money, health, and fears going too far?” In other words, are we asking questions that are “too personal.” Is there a line we can cross when doing deep discovery? I’ve heard the “too personal” question many times. It is not only a great question but reveals an insecurity that is …