Welcome! Thank you for visiting Advisor in the House, where I share with you insights gleaned from over forty years of personal and professional interactions with others. I encourage you to join the discussion. Please share your thoughts and experiences. Ask questions. Think. Feel. Imagine your practice transformed!

You would think that working with and being around adults most of the time would free us from needing to ask anyone for permission to do anything. With maturity comes autonomy, with autonomy more responsibility, and with both of those, a sense of self-actualization that is freeing, right? Maybe not. Several years ago, a new client stopped by the office to sign a couple of forms. He had, some two years earlier, bid a tough,

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The pressure to develop new clients always stares us in the face—normally on Monday morning!  As the manager who hired me wisely taught, “new relationships are oxygen to your business.”  We all know it and yet the vast majority of advisors in our firm and all firms have zero—that’s 0, nada, no—net growth in any given year.   The temptation on a call is to create quick rapport, keeping the other person on the phone,

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It’s been a few weeks since I posted a conversation. But, with our national election over, Thanksgiving in the books, and the December holiday season staring us in the face, I realized the wisdom of catching my breath in these waning days of 2016.  Call it a pause, a break, a halftime moment to look back, look forward, and look inward. In all candor, on any given day of the week, all of us are

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Having a conversation with another person, a give-and-take, back-and-forth exchange that is engaging and genuine is a beautiful thing.  The opposite is just as true: attempting a conversation with a guarded, less-than-transparent person is frustrating, close to impossible. Successful advisors are students of conversational dynamics. One aspect of the art form is diagnosing a client who may be unable to be transparent with information vital to your work with them.  Why?  What keeps us from

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Restaurant owners know what a “reefer” is, but perhaps it’s a new word to you – unless you grew up in the 1960’s.  Back in—when I was a teenager—a “reefer” transitioned to a “joint”—think Colorado–but I digress.  For those in the food business, a “reefer” is a climate controlled, movable trolley with shelving on which perishable foodstuffs are transported from the distributor to the restaurant.  When the truck off loads the raw material for tonight’s

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The agenda set for a client meeting is predictable: Anything changed since we last met?  Review of recent quarter or the past 6 or 12 months.  Re-visit the asset allocation.  Any recommended changes?  “Good to visit with you.  See you next week at the symphony gala”, etc. etc. I deeply believe that no matter the client, the day of the week, or the numbers, people are hearing more voices outside a conversation than any one

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We humans live by story.  Our family of origin and extended family, the community where we were reared, faith and education environments, social constructs, music heard and overheard, and scores of other creeks and streams trickle into the river of our lives.  And yes, from time to time, some authoritarian voice says something we accept without question, piercing every logical or critical filter we have, taking up permanent residence in our minds.  These ideas –

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The words “investor” and “fear” seem joined at the hip.  One client expresses unconcern with the market reaching new highs while another sits on the sidelines unable to pull the “buy” trigger.  The first client is fearful of a pullback, correction, or bear market while the other is afraid she’s missed an upside opportunity that may not show up again for some time.   When money is involved, clients feel and manifest any number of

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It was Socrates offering sage wisdom when he taught: “Never lead with statements when you can lead with questions.” Simple but profound wisdom, but difficult both to remember and implement. Why? Because all of us have so much we feel we need and want to say. And, human nature being what it is, we warm to the sound of our own voice. Asking questions has nothing to do with any voyeuristic curiosity we have about

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What are some ways we can support our clients through a divorce when it comes to their children?  Through the years, I have had dozens of conversations with divorcing couples whose love and concern for their children is and must be number one.  Parents separating and who may eventually divorce must convey to their children that this change in the family has not been and never will be their fault.   When a marriage ends,

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